TinkerBelleLuvr
Senior Member
If it goes to supervised visits, it may be even MORE difficult for the OP to move longer distances, rather than easier.
And what if the professionals are wrong and this was not a second degree burn? Seriously. What if it were Intertrigo? Or an allergy to cinnamon/cassia that may have been in the bath soap (such allergies can mimic second degree burns down to the sloughing skin and red marks) -- did the doctors check for that as maybe it was in a soap product? Or maybe it was possible that dad used aloe vera on the baby's bottom during the last diaper change before drop off and that caused it? here is one story:
It's Worse Than Having A Peanut Allergy.... : I Am Allergic to Aloe Vera Story & Experience
Did they test the baby for ALL these things? or just look and say -- hey it's a burn! Got it. There are innocent reasons for what could have happened.
The baby is doing much, much better. The burns are 99% healed and he is a happy guy!
Dad and I were doing fine until the baby came home with second degree burns to 2/3 of his bottom. Literally, skin sloughing off and peeling. The rest? Too burned to have any "external" skin left. Just raw, weeping, bloody skin that the only thing that would stick being burn cream.
You're honestly suggesting that FOUR different doctors Don't know the difference between a 2nd Degree Contact Burn and some kind of rash?? Seriously? I'd say that's some serious reaching there....
You're honestly suggesting that FOUR different doctors Don't know the difference between a 2nd Degree Contact Burn and some kind of rash?? Seriously? I'd say that's some serious reaching there....
Here is my issue with you, IC. The above is what you wrote yesterday. 99% healed. Yet you describe the injuries as:
Second degree burns. split an full thickness burns. You first posted about this on 3/25, roughly 2 weeks ago. I had a patient, a 3 year old who had pulled on a plug and a pot of hot coffee spilled over her chest and arms. deep second degree burns, with no "external skin" left. She was in the hospital for 3 months. Had to have skin grafts.
Now you are telling us that in 2 weeks your child is 99% healed with burn cream alone? Sorry, that is where you lost me. I suggested a special formula that they give babies with burns since you also told us that your baby was failing to thrive (you ignored my suggestion) You also stated on the FTT note that he wasn't making eye contact (??) Many of us suggested a neuro consult, nothing is being said about that now.
I am glad to hear your son is healing, but I also have issues with your posts.
I read back over what I posted. My irritation is not quite with IC. Not keen on her ready to think the worst of dad and that bothers me and there seems to be inconsistencies. My spidey sense is tingling, so to speak. But truthfully, CPS is stomping all over dad's rights here according to the law and I hope he fights it.
Do I want the child to have been harmed in any way? HECK NO! (I almost wrote something else a bit stronger but...) I do think that rather than assuming the worst of dad that maybe IC and dad should try to discuss this like adults and see if dad has any explanation of what happened.
CPS has been wrong many many times. So called medical experts have been wrong several times as well. I have seen parents accused of everything from severe abuse including shaken baby syndrome that was supposedly confirmed by several experts. Only to find out the experts were wrong. That they missed something. Did that happen in this case -- well lets put it this way, something is missing from this. I have read your facts that you have posted IC and something is definitely missing from the whole spectrum of what has been posted.
It is very possible that dad is telling the truth as is mom. But IC seems very ready to believe the worst of dad. That is an issue with me. Didn't you know him better when you slept him to know what kind of person he is?
What if this is a false accusation? What if the doctors are wrong? IC you seem to have already made up your mind about the fact that dad is a demon and abused his child. Why is that? Before you say because all the evidence points to him -- what evidence?
I can't put my finger on it but quite frankly, something is rotten in Denmark, so to speak.
Here is my issue with you, IC. The above is what you wrote yesterday. 99% healed. Yet you describe the injuries as:
Second degree burns. split an full thickness burns. You first posted about this on 3/25, roughly 2 weeks ago. I had a patient, a 3 year old who had pulled on a plug and a pot of hot coffee spilled over her chest and arms. deep second degree burns, with no "external skin" left. She was in the hospital for 3 months. Had to have skin grafts.
Now you are telling us that in 2 weeks your child is 99% healed with burn cream alone? Sorry, that is where you lost me. I suggested a special formula that they give babies with burns since you also told us that your baby was failing to thrive (you ignored my suggestion) You also stated on the FTT note that he wasn't making eye contact (??) Many of us suggested a neuro consult, nothing is being said about that now.
I am glad to hear your son is healing, but I also have issues with your posts.
I thought we were done with the moving away thought?
Whose decision was it for Dad not to have visitation while babe had an ear infection.
As for the rest... I'll be honest - I (and others, I believe) think there is more to this story. I'm sorry. It's just what I think.
It was his choice. I told him I was taking him to the MD, told him what they said, and he said "Then just keep him home with you." So - he stayed with me - per Dad's request.
Well, it is your right to believe there is more to it than you are hearing, but the b@tch of it for me is that there IS NO MORE to it than anyone is hearing. It's just a fact - it doesn't make sense, it isn't "normal" but it is the hell that is currently my life. Dad has no answers, I wasn't there, I have what the MD's say, what the social worker says, and the pictures of my sons burned bottom. So, since that is all there is to it, I would love to hear one person give me an answer as to what THEY would do in my shoes...
Has he been tested for allergies? Specifically ALOE? Aloe is in everything anymore. Maybe dad used aloe wipes. But has the baby been tested for allergies, YES OR NO?