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shuga24
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Hey stealth that last comment was to moussourigal. I go to the school every day and ask them about her testing. They tell me I have to talk to the teacher. I did talk to her. She said she will call me at home. She never does. I am afraid for my child because I have to watch her cry. She just cant get it. She struggles so hard. She doesn't even know some sound of her words. I have her watch these learning movies but, she doesn't inderstand. This is my first time going through this why do people expect me to take this on like a pro. I have a four year old that is way more advanced and she is not even in school yet. People are so rude Why can't they give you advice without being rude. I didn't do anything wrong other than trying to do what is best for my child. IF THAT IS WRONG iM SORRY
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monnickasmommy
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I would look for another school if your daughter is not getting help , all I have to do is ask once at my boys Preschool if they are behind in anything to let me know and they will also seek help for me within 24 hours.
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Early Childhood Mental Health Services
Early Childhood Mental Health provides therapeutic preschool and mental health services for children ages birth to six years with emotional, behavioral, social or other psychological problems and their families. Assessment and treatment services are available for children who have experienced abuse or trauma, stress due to family conflict, divorce, loss or major life changes. Services include intensive family therapy and support, parent-child counseling, and consultation with other care providers, and school district personnel. The Crisis/Home-Based Services program provides crisis intervention and emergency childcare to families at risk for abuse and neglect and home-based counseling for high-risk parents of newborns.
Early Childhood Mental Health Services
6171 W. Charleston Blvd. Bldg. 7
Las Vegas, NV 89102
Office Southern Early Childhood Services
Phone 702-486-6100
Fax 702-486-7798
Here it the web site : http://www.nvcommunityconnections.com/programs/agencies.php?serviceid=4&programid=3
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stealth2
Under the Radar Member
shuga24 said:
You've been given advice and you've sloughed it off. I'm sorry, but this child NEEDS additional evaluation and testing and not a mother who wants to deal with one problem at a time.
Your previous response had nothing to do with your child's education/developmental problems, and MG was right on the mark. You asked for people's opinions, and as soon as you got one you dind't like, you got pissy.
What you need to do is hire a lawyer, quite frankly.
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shuga24
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tHIS MAN IS NOT MY EX
he is not my ex we have never had a relationship I was 17 he was 24. He was with another woman. I did not know he was with someone else. I found out when he went to jail for beating on her. He called me from Jail. I did everything and anything for this man. I would feel bad to keep her from him. I wouldn't wont anyone to do that to me. The only way she could come over is if I dropped her off. I drop her off and with in seconds of me leaving his house he was gone to who nows where. He didn't see my child in a few months because of hisself. When he finally saw her he dropped her off at his cousins house and went to a basketball game. If i didn't see my child for awhile. When i did see her I would have had that whole daty planed out.
he is not my ex we have never had a relationship I was 17 he was 24. He was with another woman. I did not know he was with someone else. I found out when he went to jail for beating on her. He called me from Jail. I did everything and anything for this man. I would feel bad to keep her from him. I wouldn't wont anyone to do that to me. The only way she could come over is if I dropped her off. I drop her off and with in seconds of me leaving his house he was gone to who nows where. He didn't see my child in a few months because of hisself. When he finally saw her he dropped her off at his cousins house and went to a basketball game. If i didn't see my child for awhile. When i did see her I would have had that whole daty planed out.
no one is jumping on you. You have given us really really vague information.
my husband is dyslexic has ADD and took ritalin as a child. He is a very successful business owner. there has to be MUCH more to your childs problems, if what you are claiming is true.
Is there any sort of court orders for anything at all?
Yes 6 years is a while but your last move may have possibly been his "last straw" the fact that your child is in school and supposedly experiencing problems, may be what makes him want to have joint custody to be more involved, who knows?
Does he live in the same schoool district as you?
with the limited amount of info ryou have posted, I think you need much more than internet help and really need ot consult with a lawyer in your area, no matter the cost.
my husband is dyslexic has ADD and took ritalin as a child. He is a very successful business owner. there has to be MUCH more to your childs problems, if what you are claiming is true.
Is there any sort of court orders for anything at all?
Yes 6 years is a while but your last move may have possibly been his "last straw" the fact that your child is in school and supposedly experiencing problems, may be what makes him want to have joint custody to be more involved, who knows?
Does he live in the same schoool district as you?
with the limited amount of info ryou have posted, I think you need much more than internet help and really need ot consult with a lawyer in your area, no matter the cost.
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shuga24
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How was she on the mark. She didn't even come close to my question. I never had this man track me down. I always told him whwre i was. but you're right. I shouldn't get mad at your opinion because the only way you would understand is if you are going through something like this right now or if you have been through this. It's like we are on a talk show. Maybe you feel this man should have my child because he lives with his mom, or is it the fact that he has not done anything for her but buy clothes. or is it because he thinks he doesn't hjave to help me. I been on my own since i was 18. He has never had responsibility of his own
bills. rent, His mother washes his clothes, cooks and cleans for him.
bills. rent, His mother washes his clothes, cooks and cleans for him.
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shuga24
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he laughed it off
I called him to tell him about her problemsin scool I told him she might have a learning disability. He told me i was lying and he laughed in my face. If he ever tried to help her work instead of taking her to the movies every weekend to see drumline and honey he would know she has a problem
I called him to tell him about her problemsin scool I told him she might have a learning disability. He told me i was lying and he laughed in my face. If he ever tried to help her work instead of taking her to the movies every weekend to see drumline and honey he would know she has a problem
stealth2
Under the Radar Member
Oh Lord, why do I feel like I'm hitting my head against a brick wall?
Look - you chose (since you haven't told us otherwise) to sleep with this guy and have him father your child. Okay, you were young and naive, but the fact remains. The reason he has a RIGHT to time with her is because (follow me here) HE.IS.HER.FATHER. The father you chose her to have. It is too late to change that. So he has rights, and they include filing for custody.
You need to understand something, and relatively quickly. Your daughter's father is trying to prove you unfit. She is obviously - from your own words - having significant problems in school. Problems which fall WAY beyond the scope of dyslexia. I think most of us who are parents understand that this is your first child, you're young, and you're doing the best you can. We're all telling you - baased on our experience - that she needs further evaluation. If you continue to put it off, for whatever reason, you stand a good chance of seeing her go to her father if he indicates that he will get her the evaluation she needs.
You NEED a lawyer. Like yesterday.
Look - you chose (since you haven't told us otherwise) to sleep with this guy and have him father your child. Okay, you were young and naive, but the fact remains. The reason he has a RIGHT to time with her is because (follow me here) HE.IS.HER.FATHER. The father you chose her to have. It is too late to change that. So he has rights, and they include filing for custody.
You need to understand something, and relatively quickly. Your daughter's father is trying to prove you unfit. She is obviously - from your own words - having significant problems in school. Problems which fall WAY beyond the scope of dyslexia. I think most of us who are parents understand that this is your first child, you're young, and you're doing the best you can. We're all telling you - baased on our experience - that she needs further evaluation. If you continue to put it off, for whatever reason, you stand a good chance of seeing her go to her father if he indicates that he will get her the evaluation she needs.
You NEED a lawyer. Like yesterday.
Whyte Noise
Senior Member
Look lady, no one has been rude to you on this thread. If you want rude, go read some of the older posts.
Stop making excuses. Have your daughter tested like you've been told to do. There is more going on with her than just dyslexia. I'd bet the farm on that one.
Now, whether you don't like the advice or not, it IS correct. Just because someone doesn't "agree" with you doesn't make them rude. You came here asking questions, we gave you answers.
And, WHAT mistakes you've made, you ask? Well, all the moving for one. Do you have any idea of how a court could see that? Lemme give you a little scenario...
Your ex: "Your Honor, she's made it impossible for me to have a relationship with my daughter."
You: "No I haven't Your Honor!! I've never ONCE denied him visitation, and I've always encouraged him to take even more than he does!!"
Judge: "So, Mr. Ex, what exactly do you think she's done to frustrate your visitations? She states that she tries to offer you even more time, and you won't take it"
Your ex: "Your Honor, she's moved 7 times in the last 2 years. Each time, I have to find my child again. How can I have access to my child when her mother keeps moving?"
Judge: "Ms. You? Is this true? Do you keep moving to frustrate Mr. Ex's visitation?"
You: "Not at all your honor! I move to get better jobs and be able to support my child. But now I've had to quit my job to be able to take care of my child full time, because she's dyslexic, and has a very hard time in school."
Judge: "So.... you've moved 7 times in 2 years to get better jobs, and now you've quit working at all in order to be able to take care of your child? Is that correct?"
You: "Yes, Your Honor"
Judge: "And, you see nothing wrong with all the environment changes your child has gone thru? All the different homes, etc? You don't see how this could infringe on Mr.s Ex's time with his daughter?"
You: "But, I offered him MORE time, and he didn't want it!"
Judge: "That's not the point, Ms. You. The point is that you have uprooted this child on more than one occassion, and that is an interference in the parent/child relationship between the father and the daughter. Not only that, you're changing her home more than some people change underwear. And you honestly think that is in your daughter's best interest?"
Do you see where I'm going with this? You are gonna get SLAMMED on the moving issue. Your ex's attorney will chew you up and spit you right back out on the courtroom floor.
Like it or not... think it's rude or not... that's the reality you're facing lady. If you want to go through your life with blinders on and not listen to anyone that's trying to help you, then you'll have no one to blame but yourself.
My dear, it's not us that have our heads stuck up our own asses refusing to see what's right in front of us. We've BEEN where you are and are telling you what you NEED to hear, not what you WANT to hear. I'll put it in plain terms for you.
#1. Get your daughter tested immediately. I have a learning disabled child, and I'm talking from experience here. You have more going on with your daughter than just dyslexia. You can't just "fix" one problem at a time. ALL the problems have to be addressed in order for her to be "fixed".
#2. You're moving IS going to be an issue in the courtroom. You'd better be prepared and find out how to defend against it when you're questioned about WHY you've moved so much.
#3. Your daughter calling your husband daddy could very well be an issue in court. Combine that with the fact that you've moved so much, and it just might look like (to the judge) that you are indeed frustrating the parent/child relationship.
Take my advice or not. Take the other's advice or not. It's no skin off our noses either way. We're here trying to HELP people like you, and you can't take the blinders off long enough to see that because you don't like what we have to say.
Oh well, I tried. Someone else can do this one.
Stop making excuses. Have your daughter tested like you've been told to do. There is more going on with her than just dyslexia. I'd bet the farm on that one.
Now, whether you don't like the advice or not, it IS correct. Just because someone doesn't "agree" with you doesn't make them rude. You came here asking questions, we gave you answers.
And, WHAT mistakes you've made, you ask? Well, all the moving for one. Do you have any idea of how a court could see that? Lemme give you a little scenario...
Your ex: "Your Honor, she's made it impossible for me to have a relationship with my daughter."
You: "No I haven't Your Honor!! I've never ONCE denied him visitation, and I've always encouraged him to take even more than he does!!"
Judge: "So, Mr. Ex, what exactly do you think she's done to frustrate your visitations? She states that she tries to offer you even more time, and you won't take it"
Your ex: "Your Honor, she's moved 7 times in the last 2 years. Each time, I have to find my child again. How can I have access to my child when her mother keeps moving?"
Judge: "Ms. You? Is this true? Do you keep moving to frustrate Mr. Ex's visitation?"
You: "Not at all your honor! I move to get better jobs and be able to support my child. But now I've had to quit my job to be able to take care of my child full time, because she's dyslexic, and has a very hard time in school."
Judge: "So.... you've moved 7 times in 2 years to get better jobs, and now you've quit working at all in order to be able to take care of your child? Is that correct?"
You: "Yes, Your Honor"
Judge: "And, you see nothing wrong with all the environment changes your child has gone thru? All the different homes, etc? You don't see how this could infringe on Mr.s Ex's time with his daughter?"
You: "But, I offered him MORE time, and he didn't want it!"
Judge: "That's not the point, Ms. You. The point is that you have uprooted this child on more than one occassion, and that is an interference in the parent/child relationship between the father and the daughter. Not only that, you're changing her home more than some people change underwear. And you honestly think that is in your daughter's best interest?"
Do you see where I'm going with this? You are gonna get SLAMMED on the moving issue. Your ex's attorney will chew you up and spit you right back out on the courtroom floor.
Like it or not... think it's rude or not... that's the reality you're facing lady. If you want to go through your life with blinders on and not listen to anyone that's trying to help you, then you'll have no one to blame but yourself.
My dear, it's not us that have our heads stuck up our own asses refusing to see what's right in front of us. We've BEEN where you are and are telling you what you NEED to hear, not what you WANT to hear. I'll put it in plain terms for you.
#1. Get your daughter tested immediately. I have a learning disabled child, and I'm talking from experience here. You have more going on with your daughter than just dyslexia. You can't just "fix" one problem at a time. ALL the problems have to be addressed in order for her to be "fixed".
#2. You're moving IS going to be an issue in the courtroom. You'd better be prepared and find out how to defend against it when you're questioned about WHY you've moved so much.
#3. Your daughter calling your husband daddy could very well be an issue in court. Combine that with the fact that you've moved so much, and it just might look like (to the judge) that you are indeed frustrating the parent/child relationship.
Take my advice or not. Take the other's advice or not. It's no skin off our noses either way. We're here trying to HELP people like you, and you can't take the blinders off long enough to see that because you don't like what we have to say.
Oh well, I tried. Someone else can do this one.
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monnickasmommy
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Nevada Revised Statutes:
NRS 125.480 Best interest of child; preferences; considerations of court; presumption when court determines that parent or person residing with child is perpetrator of domestic violence.
1. In determining custody of a minor child in an action brought under this chapter, the sole consideration of the court is the best interest of the child. If it appears to the court that joint custody would be in the best interest of the child, the court may grant custody to the parties jointly.
2. Preference must not be given to either parent for the sole reason that the parent is the mother or the father of the child.
3. The court shall award custody in the following order of preference unless in a particular case the best interest of the child requires otherwise:
(a) To both parents jointly pursuant to NRS 125.490 or to either parent. If the court does not enter an order awarding joint custody of a child after either parent has applied for joint custody, the court shall state in its decision the reason for its denial of the parent’s application. When awarding custody to either parent, the court shall consider, among other factors, which parent is more likely to allow the child to have frequent associations and a continuing relationship with the noncustodial parent.
(b) To a person or persons in whose home the child has been living and where the child has had a wholesome and stable environment.
(c) To any person related within the third degree of consanguinity to the child whom the court finds suitable and able to provide proper care and guidance for the child, regardless of whether the relative resides within this state.
(d) To any other person or persons whom the court finds suitable and able to provide proper care and guidance for the child.
4. In determining the best interest of the child, the court shall consider, among other things:
(a) The wishes of the child if the child is of sufficient age and capacity to form an intelligent preference as to his custody;
(b) Any nomination by a parent or a guardian for the child; and
(c) Whether either parent or any other person seeking custody has engaged in an act of domestic violence against the child, a parent of the child or any other person residing with the child.
5. Except as otherwise provided in subsection 6 or NRS 125C.210, a determination by the court after an evidentiary hearing and finding by clear and convincing evidence that either parent or any other person seeking custody has engaged in one or more acts of domestic violence against the child, a parent of the child or any other person residing with the child creates a rebuttable presumption that sole or joint custody of the child by the perpetrator of the domestic violence is not in the best interest of the child. Upon making such a determination, the court shall set forth:
(a) Findings of fact that support the determination that one or more acts of domestic violence occurred; and
(b) Findings that the custody or visitation arrangement ordered by the court adequately protects the child and the parent or other victim of domestic violence who resided with the child.
6. If after an evidentiary hearing held pursuant to subsection 5 the court determines that each party has engaged in acts of domestic violence, it shall, if possible, then determine which person was the primary physical aggressor. In determining which party was the primary physical aggressor for the purposes of this section, the court shall consider:
(a) All prior acts of domestic violence involving either party;
(b) The relative severity of the injuries, if any, inflicted upon the persons involved in those prior acts of domestic violence;
(c) The likelihood of future injury;
(d) Whether, during the prior acts, one of the parties acted in self-defense; and
(e) Any other factors which the court deems relevant to the determination.
In such a case, if it is not possible for the court to determine which party is the primary physical aggressor, the presumption created pursuant to subsection 5 applies to both parties. If it is possible for the court to determine which party is the primary physical aggressor, the presumption created pursuant to subsection 5 applies only to the party determined by the court to be the primary physical aggressor.
7. As used in this section, “domestic violence” means the commission of any act described in NRS 33.018.
(Added to NRS by 1981, 283; A 1991, 980, 1175; 1995, 330)
NRS 125.490 Joint custody.
1. There is a presumption, affecting the burden of proof, that joint custody would be in the best interest of a minor child if the parents have agreed to an award of joint custody or so agree in open court at a hearing for the purpose of determining the custody of the minor child or children of the marriage.
2. The court may award joint legal custody without awarding joint physical custody in a case where the parents have agreed to joint legal custody.
3. For assistance in making a determination whether an award of joint custody is appropriate, the court may direct that an investigation be conducted.
(Added to NRS by 1981, 284)—(Substituted in revision for NRS 125.136)
NRS 125.480 Best interest of child; preferences; considerations of court; presumption when court determines that parent or person residing with child is perpetrator of domestic violence.
1. In determining custody of a minor child in an action brought under this chapter, the sole consideration of the court is the best interest of the child. If it appears to the court that joint custody would be in the best interest of the child, the court may grant custody to the parties jointly.
2. Preference must not be given to either parent for the sole reason that the parent is the mother or the father of the child.
3. The court shall award custody in the following order of preference unless in a particular case the best interest of the child requires otherwise:
(a) To both parents jointly pursuant to NRS 125.490 or to either parent. If the court does not enter an order awarding joint custody of a child after either parent has applied for joint custody, the court shall state in its decision the reason for its denial of the parent’s application. When awarding custody to either parent, the court shall consider, among other factors, which parent is more likely to allow the child to have frequent associations and a continuing relationship with the noncustodial parent.
(b) To a person or persons in whose home the child has been living and where the child has had a wholesome and stable environment.
(c) To any person related within the third degree of consanguinity to the child whom the court finds suitable and able to provide proper care and guidance for the child, regardless of whether the relative resides within this state.
(d) To any other person or persons whom the court finds suitable and able to provide proper care and guidance for the child.
4. In determining the best interest of the child, the court shall consider, among other things:
(a) The wishes of the child if the child is of sufficient age and capacity to form an intelligent preference as to his custody;
(b) Any nomination by a parent or a guardian for the child; and
(c) Whether either parent or any other person seeking custody has engaged in an act of domestic violence against the child, a parent of the child or any other person residing with the child.
5. Except as otherwise provided in subsection 6 or NRS 125C.210, a determination by the court after an evidentiary hearing and finding by clear and convincing evidence that either parent or any other person seeking custody has engaged in one or more acts of domestic violence against the child, a parent of the child or any other person residing with the child creates a rebuttable presumption that sole or joint custody of the child by the perpetrator of the domestic violence is not in the best interest of the child. Upon making such a determination, the court shall set forth:
(a) Findings of fact that support the determination that one or more acts of domestic violence occurred; and
(b) Findings that the custody or visitation arrangement ordered by the court adequately protects the child and the parent or other victim of domestic violence who resided with the child.
6. If after an evidentiary hearing held pursuant to subsection 5 the court determines that each party has engaged in acts of domestic violence, it shall, if possible, then determine which person was the primary physical aggressor. In determining which party was the primary physical aggressor for the purposes of this section, the court shall consider:
(a) All prior acts of domestic violence involving either party;
(b) The relative severity of the injuries, if any, inflicted upon the persons involved in those prior acts of domestic violence;
(c) The likelihood of future injury;
(d) Whether, during the prior acts, one of the parties acted in self-defense; and
(e) Any other factors which the court deems relevant to the determination.
In such a case, if it is not possible for the court to determine which party is the primary physical aggressor, the presumption created pursuant to subsection 5 applies to both parties. If it is possible for the court to determine which party is the primary physical aggressor, the presumption created pursuant to subsection 5 applies only to the party determined by the court to be the primary physical aggressor.
7. As used in this section, “domestic violence” means the commission of any act described in NRS 33.018.
(Added to NRS by 1981, 283; A 1991, 980, 1175; 1995, 330)
NRS 125.490 Joint custody.
1. There is a presumption, affecting the burden of proof, that joint custody would be in the best interest of a minor child if the parents have agreed to an award of joint custody or so agree in open court at a hearing for the purpose of determining the custody of the minor child or children of the marriage.
2. The court may award joint legal custody without awarding joint physical custody in a case where the parents have agreed to joint legal custody.
3. For assistance in making a determination whether an award of joint custody is appropriate, the court may direct that an investigation be conducted.
(Added to NRS by 1981, 284)—(Substituted in revision for NRS 125.136)
Look, this child has been stated to have sound recognition problems, attending problems and perception problems. HAVE you had full audiologic screening? Has she seen any specialists to see if she's ADD? Because if you are failing to recognize and obtain proper intervention for existing barriers, sitting full time in her classroon is worth SQUAT. Even a 15 to 20 db deficit in the speech range can make a huge difference in language development if unaddressed. You can't treat one thing and ignore everything else. This child IS diagnosed as dyslexix? So, DO you have an IEP? Are you on web support lists for parents of SNs kids so they can help you recognize OTHER possible issues?
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shuga24
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I havent moved 7 times in 2 years. I moved because i thought it was best for my child. A safe home not to keep her away from him
I stayed in an apartment. It was suppossed to be a nice neighbor hood. one month i was there 3 people were mudered in my complex. I had to walk through taht area with my child . I lived way in the back. I was afraid to come home sometimes so i moved. Another place i lived the toilet was messed up. Every day i called these people to fix the toilet and everyday i came home there was water and black thick stuff around my whole house
I couldn't get no help. I asked him if my daughter could stay with him but he said he had to work. I was nasty and it had a bad smell. So i did what i had to do and i moved. Another place I stayed, I was raped in the a apartment when i came home iwas by myself so i moved again. Everyone knows they would have moved too. I AM STABLE NOW THOUGH AND HE KNOWS IT. he didn't file for custody until after i filled for chil support
I stayed in an apartment. It was suppossed to be a nice neighbor hood. one month i was there 3 people were mudered in my complex. I had to walk through taht area with my child . I lived way in the back. I was afraid to come home sometimes so i moved. Another place i lived the toilet was messed up. Every day i called these people to fix the toilet and everyday i came home there was water and black thick stuff around my whole house
I couldn't get no help. I asked him if my daughter could stay with him but he said he had to work. I was nasty and it had a bad smell. So i did what i had to do and i moved. Another place I stayed, I was raped in the a apartment when i came home iwas by myself so i moved again. Everyone knows they would have moved too. I AM STABLE NOW THOUGH AND HE KNOWS IT. he didn't file for custody until after i filled for chil support
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shuga24
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I no better than to tell the judge why i moved. Eveyone keeps talking about how i moved but they dont say anything about this man living with his mother forever at the age 30. It is okay for him to take her to see r rayed movies at the age of 6. Is it okay for her to share a room with him.?It is ? She sits and listens to his conversations on the phone. She sees him get dressed and undressed. Why doesn't anyone see a problem with that?
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