djmastr111
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FLA I need legal advice but I need support from other fathers also.
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you did it again.
she baited you. you took it. you have GOT to stop doing that.
look, you are mentally all over the place. i can see it in your posting. you have so much to say, so much going on.
stop trying to have the last word. if she calls you a liar....if she calls, and you can't talk....don't contact her until you CAN talk. and don't explain. you don't OWE HER AN EXPLANATION!
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OK. You don't have a copy of the IEP because mom doesn't want you involved. I see one thread here that perhaps you can help. Put on the mentality of the child comes first. Mom gets upset, she gets upset (she sounds pretty predictable).
You and mom are unable to coparent. Therefore, on your time with child, you need to get proactive. Get the IEP. Talk to everyone necessary. Good job for finding out and talking to school folks on your own. Get help for yourself (ADD). Find a good online forum to discuss personal issues relating to parenting.
Ask the judge to put a clause in the court order that both parents shall inform the other parent one week in advance of any educational and medical appts regarding _____. If child needs to have an appointment sooner, the other parent shall be contacted promptly informing of date, time, etc. Each parent shall inform the other parent of any information regarding the child following a medical or educational appointment. (when one can't make it)
Address loss of visitation time. Ask for make-up
Ask that it be ordered boyfriend not come - you don't need to bash him or bring up his history - just - if there is time - state he has been disruptive at school meetings and it is counterproductive.
I am absolutely not an attorney
OK. You don't have a copy of the IEP because mom doesn't want you involved. I see one thread here that perhaps you can help. Put on the mentality of the child comes first. Mom gets upset, she gets upset (she sounds pretty predictable).
You and mom are unable to coparent. Therefore, on your time with child, you need to get proactive. Get the IEP. Talk to everyone necessary. Good job for finding out and talking to school folks on your own. Get help for yourself (ADD). Find a good online forum to discuss personal issues relating to parenting.
Ask the judge to put a clause in the court order that both parents shall inform the other parent one week in advance of any educational and medical appts regarding _____. If child needs to have an appointment sooner, the other parent shall be contacted promptly informing of date, time, etc. Each parent shall inform the other parent of any information regarding the child following a medical or educational appointment. (when one can't make it)
Address loss of visitation time. Ask for make-up
Ask that it be ordered boyfriend not come - you don't need to bash him or bring up his history - just - if there is time - state he has been disruptive at school meetings and it is counterproductive.
I am absolutely not an attorney
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Yes, Ohiogal is an attorney.
No, not everyone here is. The site does not promise you will be answered by an attorney. But many of the people responding to you are very knowlegable, usually due to spending years in court with difficult exes. They can be a fountain of valuable information if you focus and listen.
Answer the questions they ask you succinctly, without added commentary on what a waste of flesh you think mom is. Take note as they explain to you what a judge will and will not consider important. As serious as some things may seem to you as a dad, they could very well be legally irrelevant. They can help you if stop being defensive and give them a chance.
And you really should look up signspinner's posts (and I think pittbulllvr was another of his many usernames.) His circumstances were very different but he would not get a lawyer either, wouldn't listen to what the volunteers tried to tell him to do, and he ended up messing things up so badly that in the end it did not matter that mom really WAS in the wrong.
No, not everyone here is. The site does not promise you will be answered by an attorney. But many of the people responding to you are very knowlegable, usually due to spending years in court with difficult exes. They can be a fountain of valuable information if you focus and listen.
Answer the questions they ask you succinctly, without added commentary on what a waste of flesh you think mom is. Take note as they explain to you what a judge will and will not consider important. As serious as some things may seem to you as a dad, they could very well be legally irrelevant. They can help you if stop being defensive and give them a chance.
And you really should look up signspinner's posts (and I think pittbulllvr was another of his many usernames.) His circumstances were very different but he would not get a lawyer either, wouldn't listen to what the volunteers tried to tell him to do, and he ended up messing things up so badly that in the end it did not matter that mom really WAS in the wrong.
djmastr111
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Ok here's another deal mother has tried to alienate since before son was born. She has attempted to do so after he was born and is still trying. She refused all communication at one period in time for a year I believe. She demanded the court not enter an order giving me time with him which said "I will allow mike to see the baby when I feel like it not if I am ordered". That is only one instance out of many. They tell our son "thats not daddy thats mike".
How does that route sound my goal is to get everything solved at this modification and not to have to come back.
I owe money for my court case $200 or so now and have paid for the service but online it still says case closed. Do I need to wait for her to be served before they reopen the case? I filed a week and a half ago should she have been served already?
What is the next question that needs an answer? I did fall for it today but would it matter that I was respectful and she came out of nowhere calling me a liar? I just keep getting madder and madder and just feel like filing everything and let the judge choose what he thinks is important. Mom will not be filing anything other than what is absolutely necessary or I believe that is how it will be because that's what happened every time so far.
How does that route sound my goal is to get everything solved at this modification and not to have to come back.
I owe money for my court case $200 or so now and have paid for the service but online it still says case closed. Do I need to wait for her to be served before they reopen the case? I filed a week and a half ago should she have been served already?
What is the next question that needs an answer? I did fall for it today but would it matter that I was respectful and she came out of nowhere calling me a liar? I just keep getting madder and madder and just feel like filing everything and let the judge choose what he thinks is important. Mom will not be filing anything other than what is absolutely necessary or I believe that is how it will be because that's what happened every time so far.
cappadocia
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OP, you're just purging yourself emotionally and not absorbing any of the information provided to you. Do yourself a favor and read the forum. Read every thread that's relevant to your situation and then a few that aren't. Using the search function, read every thread that references Signspinner and look how he allowed his emotions to dictate his behavior and how it ruined everything he had going for him. You're hurt. You're bitter. You feel like you got a raw deal. Okay, that's life. Learn from it. Learn all you possibly can about what is within your control. And stop talking.
djmastr111
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I am happy with how things are. The only thing is that I will not stand back and watch my son he held back from greatness by his mother. The schedule is good but if I am going to be making decisions I will need more than mondays and fridays with him. I will look up sign spinner. The only one who has given information is isis1 everyone else is directing their assumptions at her. They did not give any information.
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That stuff with signspinner is ridiculous I feel bad for him but mom left the state. It is very sad that what I read appeared to be attacks on signspinner every new member here that I looked at the postings of seemed as if a senior member comes around and attacks them. It would be right to make them feel comfortable with speaking with you instead of making them feel your taking the other parents side right off the bat without even knowing the other parents side or even asking for it. I have seen this on 4 threads so far.
My sons mom lives a mile away and refused visits saying "the only way you will see your son is through court" I have done nothing to her except tell her don't bring my son to visit me in jail and I wouldn't be in jail very long. I filed for court and got joint custody every weekend visits which I don't like to refer to as visits I prefer parenting time.
My sons mom lives a mile away and refused visits saying "the only way you will see your son is through court" I have done nothing to her except tell her don't bring my son to visit me in jail and I wouldn't be in jail very long. I filed for court and got joint custody every weekend visits which I don't like to refer to as visits I prefer parenting time.
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these are posts to signspinner.... nothing helpful only attacks. No wonder he did what he did nobody would help him you just made him feel worse and worse. You get off on talking **** don't you mistoffolees, thegeekess,
and this gr8rn is not a very nice person gr8rn has not posted one helpful thing since 2008 i bet. I'm guessing that you are mind readers and so you knew that signspinner was wrong because his ex also posted her side here right? Nobody did a damn thing to try and help. I will be back after court in 6 months to let you all know (isis1 not you) how wrong you really are. If my sons mother is to hire an attorney of course I will hire one. But I've done great so far without one out of 20 hearings I've gotten what i asked for at 20 hearings. Mom left crying. I left with my head held high. I don't need to give someone else $3,000 to tell a judge how I feel about my child I am perfectly able to do that myself and the $3,000 can go into my sons bank account for his college tuition.
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Oh, come ON. The goober can't understand English, but you seem to expect him to understand complicated languages?!
Now, if you had have tried using some sort of Neanderthal-ish language, I could see THAT. Just sayin'.
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Tarzan say, "you need lawyer."
Let's try Moron:
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http://www.flcourts.org/gen_public/family/forms_rules/927.pdf sweet im gettin it
You are going to subpoena this person and base the testimony on what? Do you have a court hearing coming up? because you can't just subpoena someone and have them show up in court without a hearing. and you cannot have a hearing just based on a subpoena. There has to be a reason for it. This is why you are a loser. You don't know what you are doing.
And you are still an idiot.
And this has nothing to do with little Bella. Poor kid.
and this gr8rn is not a very nice person gr8rn has not posted one helpful thing since 2008 i bet. I'm guessing that you are mind readers and so you knew that signspinner was wrong because his ex also posted her side here right? Nobody did a damn thing to try and help. I will be back after court in 6 months to let you all know (isis1 not you) how wrong you really are. If my sons mother is to hire an attorney of course I will hire one. But I've done great so far without one out of 20 hearings I've gotten what i asked for at 20 hearings. Mom left crying. I left with my head held high. I don't need to give someone else $3,000 to tell a judge how I feel about my child I am perfectly able to do that myself and the $3,000 can go into my sons bank account for his college tuition.
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Oh, come ON. The goober can't understand English, but you seem to expect him to understand complicated languages?!
Now, if you had have tried using some sort of Neanderthal-ish language, I could see THAT. Just sayin'.
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http://www.flcourts.org/gen_public/family/forms_rules/927.pdf sweet im gettin it
You are going to subpoena this person and base the testimony on what? Do you have a court hearing coming up? because you can't just subpoena someone and have them show up in court without a hearing. and you cannot have a hearing just based on a subpoena. There has to be a reason for it. This is why you are a loser. You don't know what you are doing.
And you are still an idiot.
And this has nothing to do with little Bella. Poor kid.
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Okay, champ. Carry on.
djmastr111
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How about this can I ask a question?
In a court order that does not specify parental decision making authority or any custody but does say both parents jointly decide on any major decisions concerning minor child. And both parents have him half and half but I pay her child support through the Dept of Revenue (who I've called attornies to try and sue but they say you don't rock the boat at your own workplace lol).
Does that mean 1. joint custody? 2. since i pay mother she has full custody? 3. that if she doesn't allow me any desicion making that I can decide on my own since the court would not hear me on it at a contempt hearing where she was held in contempt for a few other things?
I am confused there because Family court case management said that usually the parent with the most time is the one to make decisions.
My sons name is Jeremiah. I call him JJ. Can I put a picture on here?
In a court order that does not specify parental decision making authority or any custody but does say both parents jointly decide on any major decisions concerning minor child. And both parents have him half and half but I pay her child support through the Dept of Revenue (who I've called attornies to try and sue but they say you don't rock the boat at your own workplace lol).
Does that mean 1. joint custody? 2. since i pay mother she has full custody? 3. that if she doesn't allow me any desicion making that I can decide on my own since the court would not hear me on it at a contempt hearing where she was held in contempt for a few other things?
I am confused there because Family court case management said that usually the parent with the most time is the one to make decisions.
My sons name is Jeremiah. I call him JJ. Can I put a picture on here?
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Trollerific.
djmastr111
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I am acting like this because it is killing me inside. She is wrong every time says everyone including the judge. She still fights me over everything and I'm tired of being nice which it might not seem like but I have been because I could've filed my 4th contempt and the judge guaranteed jail time and 60 days at that. Instead to avoid the jail time and because I want my son to be ready for kindergarten I filed the modification.
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How do I get in contact with signspinner? I understand his feelings and I will talk to him. I don't believe that it is too late and he didn't have to agree to supervised visits.
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You're being a whiner.
NOTHING that happened previous to the current order is relevant. Not the fact that Mom 'alienated' an UNBORN CHILD, not the fact that her boyfriend has a criminal record from when YOU were a small child, not the fact that YOU have a criminal record that's pretty darned recent.
If you want to change custody/primary placement, you'll have to articulate to the court (in a rational manner) that there has been a change in the child's life that make the change necessary. Wanting 'greatness' for your 'exceptional' and 'autistic' child is not a change.
And frankly? With every post you sound LESS rational and LESS able to behave in an adult fashion.
NOTHING that happened previous to the current order is relevant. Not the fact that Mom 'alienated' an UNBORN CHILD, not the fact that her boyfriend has a criminal record from when YOU were a small child, not the fact that YOU have a criminal record that's pretty darned recent.
If you want to change custody/primary placement, you'll have to articulate to the court (in a rational manner) that there has been a change in the child's life that make the change necessary. Wanting 'greatness' for your 'exceptional' and 'autistic' child is not a change.
And frankly? With every post you sound LESS rational and LESS able to behave in an adult fashion.
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