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[mommyanme]

I agree. Both Mom and Dad are at fault here. They each think they're right, but in reality, they're both wrong - and are setting that poor child up for a lifetime of misery.

In a truly fair world, that poor child would be taken way from BOTH of them and given to foster parents who care about the child more than about how they can get back at the other parent.

Misto, that is to far. Was the fact Dad demanded she call CPS missed???? He even named the case worker for her that he had breathing down my neck Earlier this year with false accusations.

I suppose I should have said that Dad is also diagnosed with Multiple Personality Disorder by the military before it was changed to dissociative disorder????? In reality no one knows which side of him their dealing with on what day. One minute he tells me he wants to be buddies and within an hour he's accusing me of something or another. One minute he's texting about what a horrible person I am and within a few text, I love you.

Yes I chose him, did not know that at the time. You can only get so much from these forums and a person can only type so much about the entire situation before people start skimming. I am not perfect and I don't claim to be, I have done my share of arguing back with him, but I do know he will not seek medical treatment and it's not just by his own admission to me, his older child was done exactly the same way until he lost his rights to her, but it had to go on for 5 years which is another thing I did not know till after, but I still felt he needed and deserved the chance again. The reason wasn't caused I gave two flips about him, it was based completely on watching my older child go through the last 8 years with a dead Dad and kids picking on her and her asking me why God didn't want her to be like them and have a daddy.

So while you may not believe it I want him in the baby's life, but instead everything I say or do he has got to argue about it just because he desperately hates me for leaving him and yes he did tell me before the baby was born he would make me pay for 18 long years for leaving him. He knows the only button he can push with me is when it comes to that baby and his well being, harassing me by text doesn't get him the responses he wants anymore, driving through my front yard didn't get him the response he wanted(yes there's proof), going to my daughter's school claiming to be her Dad and wanting her records, didn't get a response. Telling me he smacks the baby in the mouth for biting, didn't get a response, disappearing with him for a week didn't get a response. The fact our son has very bad breathing problems and he refused to do what the doctor said, got a response, refusing to take him to the doctor when he was sick, got a response. Do you see the pattern here??? Cause writing this, I finally see it! If it doesn't get a response anymore he will ESCALATE.

My consolation is that, while there have been at least 4 women in the last year, they've all adored the baby and treated him very well. But he tries to hide them because they come and go so quickly(thinks I'll use that to change his visitation) and won't allow them to seek treatment when he refuses to do it. Will these women testify? Don't know didn't ask Didn't plan to have to ask.

Please do not take this as me arguing or wanting to start one, I am only trying to get the bigger picture in here in the short space I can. Saying a child should be taken and given to parents who love him was uncalled for, you have no clue what would happen to me if I lost a child.

 

[Ohiogal]

Misto, that is to far. Was the fact Dad demanded she call CPS missed???? He even named the case worker for her that he had breathing down my neck Earlier this year with false accusations.

Was that missed? Yeah. Because you didn't say that before. What you stated before was:

But here's what happened, Dad asked me 10 times where to pick our son up at 8:30, I told Dad the doctors office, baby was there waiting for dad at 8:30am. Dad sat in my driveway waiting on the Sheriff's department after telling them I said the baby was not going and he demanded the deputy to take the baby from me. Deputy read the note I left on the door and talked to me on the phone. I told the deputy I was not denying him the visit and I had told him where to meet for the baby.

Dad got to doctors office with the deputy was told the diagnosis and given the prescriptions and doctors instructions. Dad went in the doctors office saying "I'll talk to them myself" and everyone else left. By 10 am I was called by the office manager and she told me she had placed a call to CPS. I didn't get into specifics with her about what Dad did and said, she plainly stated she was fed up with his refusals, it was not for my benefit but for my son's and she was very nice to me. She did tell me however that Dad signed a release for transfer and said he was transferring doctors. I told her if he wants his own and she's willing to confer with them fine, but I do not agree with him changing doctors all together. Dad told her he was removing him from their care.

So where in all this did DAD DEMAND CPS be called? OH yeah. NOWHERE. In fact the officer manager was so sweet to you and told you she called CPS. Nothing about dad demanding it.


YOu are changing your story. Lack of credibility with that. If it was such an emergency for your child to see the doctor, the ER is open 24/7. YOU KNEW that this was going to cause an issue because you were scheduling an appointment on DAD's TIME without talking to him prior to the scheduling of the appointment. Quit thinking you are an innocent flower in all this.

 

[LdiJ]

Was that missed? Yeah. Because you didn't say that before. What you stated before was:


So where in all this did DAD DEMAND CPS be called? OH yeah. NOWHERE. In fact the officer manager was so sweet to you and told you she called CPS. Nothing about dad demanding it.


YOu are changing your story. Lack of credibility with that. If it was such an emergency for your child to see the doctor, the ER is open 24/7. YOU KNEW that this was going to cause an issue because you were scheduling an appointment on DAD's TIME without talking to him prior to the scheduling of the appointment. Quit thinking you are an innocent flower in all this.

From page 4,

Also my attorney called me after he spoke with the office manager and she told him the call was placed because of statements dad made and because DAD demanded she call CPS if she had a problem. They will not tell me what dad refused or what he stated other than that, my attorney just told me don't worry it was not on me and I was not in trouble and Dad's "crazy making" got the best of him this time.

Please everyone understand, I do not like CPS, I wouldn't have called them, they don't usually fix anything instead it usually gets messed up worse. But because Dad demanded she call, it's on him