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[msdad]

What is the name of your state?oh
Well for all of you who gave me advice (nice or not) thanks. I went to court yesterday on the name change of my 9 year old son, whom I've never seen until yesterday. Although I not a good look, because I didn't want his mom to see me look at him. My sons mom & husband were there. He stayed outside with his grandma. My ex tried talking to me, and telling me I was selfish, and to leave the boy alone, that it was my choice to leave. She was so shaken a chunk of her hair fell out right there!! I found a lawyer 2 hours before, they didn't show up with one, so they filed to continue. Apparently now, both lawyers will talk and see what we can come up with. I'm not letting this name change until I don't have to pay support. Because that's not fair. This is eaiser than I thought. I didn't have to say a word at all, and wouldn't even look at her when my ex asked me to. Heck, I might even file for visitation now that I know how easy this is. So I guess there is no question here, but thank you to those who gave me advice and informed me of my rights.

 

[casa]

What is the name of your state?oh
Well for all of you who gave me advice (nice or not) thanks. I went to court yesterday on the name change of my 9 year old son, whom I've never seen until yesterday. Although I not a good look, because I didn't want his mom to see me look at him. My sons mom & husband were there. He stayed outside with his grandma. My ex tried talking to me, and telling me I was selfish, and to leave the boy alone, that it was my choice to leave. She was so shaken a chunk of her hair fell out right there!! I found a lawyer 2 hours before, they didn't show up with one, so they filed to continue. Apparently now, both lawyers will talk and see what we can come up with. I'm not letting this name change until I don't have to pay support. Because that's not fair. This is eaiser than I thought. I didn't have to say a word at all, and wouldn't even look at her when my ex asked me to. Heck, I might even file for visitation now that I know how easy this is. So I guess there is no question here, but thank you to those who gave me advice and informed me of my rights.

If you think you can get out of child support over a name change, while at the same time asking for visitation- You are mistaken. Let me guess, you'd allow the name change if you didn't have to pay support?

You saying you diddn't even look at your own kid because you didn't want the mom and grandma to see you- is just pathetic.

The fact that you think this stress making your Xs hair come out, is amusing, makes you a very disturbed individual.

You bailed out on your son 9 years ago and somehow you manage to justify "how easy this is" referring to having a lawyer fight your battle for you. Just imagine how "easy" it could have been to be in your son's life.

 

[Chelle0511]

What is the name of your state?oh
Well for all of you who gave me advice (nice or not) thanks. I went to court yesterday on the name change of my 9 year old son, whom I've never seen until yesterday. Although I not a good look, because I didn't want his mom to see me look at him. My sons mom & husband were there. He stayed outside with his grandma. My ex tried talking to me, and telling me I was selfish, and to leave the boy alone, that it was my choice to leave. She was so shaken a chunk of her hair fell out right there!! I found a lawyer 2 hours before, they didn't show up with one, so they filed to continue. Apparently now, both lawyers will talk and see what we can come up with. I'm not letting this name change until I don't have to pay support. Because that's not fair. This is eaiser than I thought. I didn't have to say a word at all, and wouldn't even look at her when my ex asked me to. Heck, I might even file for visitation now that I know how easy this is. So I guess there is no question here, but thank you to those who gave me advice and informed me of my rights.

~You need to make a major decision. 1. Fight for your child to keep you name, pay support and establish a relationship with him. or 2. Let the name be changed, try to eliminate support, and let the child go to be raised with love by someone who wants that relationship.

 

[stealth2]

I don't really see what you think went so well - you ended up with a freakin' continuance, you didn't "win" anything. Maybe instead of crowing about how "easy" it all was and how if it's so easy you might think about going for visitation, you might want to sit down and give serious thought to what you want to do about being a father. And if you go for visitation, do it not to screw with the ex but because you think it's the right thing for your son. 'Cause right now you're just coming off as an obnoxious prick.

 

[styl4u64]

HA!!!!!!!!!! Hear, Hear, i just love me some Stealth

 

[Reyna7]

Grrrrr!!!

What is the name of your state?oh whom I've never seen until yesterday. Although I not a good look, because I didn't want his mom to see me look at him.

All I could think of as I read this was your son, this poor boy who had to sit there wondering why his own father refused to look at him. You are such a POS, this kid who did not ask to be born or to be born your kid and now has you do this to him. Instead of worrying about his mom seeing you look at him, you should have worried about what this boy was wanting, something you have never done his whole life.

Just pay the child support (at this point you owe him something) let his name be changed to his "real" fathers name and just go live your life...we will see you all on Maury years from now when your kid wants to confront you for that day in court when you would not look at him that scarred him for life.

This was a horrible post to start my day with and I will be haunted by it all day.

 

[stealth2]

Well, I also have to wonder why Mom & stepDad felt it necessary to have him there at all.

 

[JulieHun]

Oh My...

I dont post on here to much, but read every day. But your little selfish post, I couldnt resist.
You sound like my ex!!! Ya know, a Mother on normal circumstannces wants the father of her child to be in her childs life. Mothers feel the same rejection that the child feels. That could be why your ex was so shaken up. Its not funny, What goes around comes around...
I signed off my ex's childsupport, (stupid Me) because he is married with 4 kids all under the age of 7. He told me if he were more financially stable, he could see her more, so I wanted at "ALL" costs to take that chance, because I wanted him involved in her life. Well that was his ticket outta here!
No contact whatsoever....
Its not hurting me, Im old enough to realize there are idiots in this world, that only care about themselves..he hurt are daughter whom is now 16. One day he will have to face her, it may not be pretty....
Just as you will have to face your son......
Think of the future, and what will matter then, not how much you have to pay now. Let your son, keep your last name, stand proud of where he came from....Dont you care???????
If you go for visitation, do it because you care and you want to. Not to get even...It will never work if you do.
Dont be a selfless man, that is sickening!!

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

I think there's a trailer somewhere in this guy's life.

IAAL

 

[rmet4nzkx]

My response:

I think there's a trailer somewhere in this guy's life.

IAAL

Southern Ohio is situated between two trailer states, KY and WV

 

[AHA]

What exactly went so easy???? Nothing in your case has ahppened yet!!! Can't believe you are so evil that you are f-ing your kid and his Mom over like this. And I would love to see the look on your ugly face when the court starts working on your case!!!!!! You are seriously brainless if you think it's easy, it hasn't even begun yet. And why do you want visitation if you don't even give a s**t about the kid?? Try for a second to put yourself in your kid's shoes, would you want to be forced to see a man who doesn't care about you, has never spent any time with you and has seen you as an expense rather than a human being for your whole life?? You need to be castratred, it's easy to see why your kid's mother married someone else (ie a man with love in him!). At least she was thinking about the best interest for her kid's future instead of herself.

 

[3kids4me]

Omg

Hmmmm... I am curious to know if I was once married to you. You are a selfish, self-centered, egotistical moron who cares about no one and nothing. Your ex-wife's son, not your son, because you are not a father, should be known by his DADDY's name. I think the judge should allow the name change, ensure no visitaions are scheduled (preferably through a restraining order, because you sound like a cruel and evil person), and make you pay tons of child support. You make me sick!

 

[aspynn72]

Wow...

You talk about RIGHTS?? What about the rights of your SON? The little person whom you had just as much a part of creating as your ex. HE has a right to not suffer (financially) despite your decision to forget that he even existed...UNTIL, that is, you saw an opportunity to use something (name change) to fight against in order to get out of the ONLY responsibility you have ever HAD for him. How selfish...and oh how your true colors have been revealed!
As was already said, child support has nothing to do with having the same last name. Yeesh, you never cared about anything concerning your son before, let the poor child carry on a name he can be proud of! AND, if you DO happen to get out of paying child support (though it's not going to be as 'easy' as you think) the positive thing about that is that your son will have all ties to you cut..and THAT would be a BLESSING!

Oh, and I would give up on the visitation...you have not EARNED that priviledge. UNLESS, of course, you happen to realize what a scumbag you have been and actually WANT a true and meaningful relationship with your son. I suppose miracles CAN happen.

Quit trying to start crap. What goes around, comes around. Grow up!!

 

[LdiJ]

Well, I also have to wonder why Mom & stepDad felt it necessary to have him there at all.

If a child is over a certain age (and I think its pretty young in some states) the child has to also consent to the name change. Therefore that's likely to be the reason why the child was there.

 

[stealth2]

If a child is over a certain age (and I think its pretty young in some states) the child has to also consent to the name change. Therefore that's likely to be the reason why the child was there.

Not in OH - only consent of the parents, or the judge can override the objections of the parent if the change is in the best interests of the child.