new mommy & daddy need help

[ellencee]

anjgonzalez805

I read your other posts and I must caution fast_one and you regarding your offer to give him advice.

At 19 years of age with two illegitimate children by two different men and now married to a third man who is not the father of either of your children, I do not see how you have advice that can help this young man.

You need to be aware that this young man is guilty of statutory rape of a 13 year old girl. If your advice puts him in front of a judge, he will likely serve time in prison.

Be careful with whatever advice you give to this young man.

EC

 

[fast_one]

strange bruses

My daughter had strange marks on her arms and legs so My GF and I took her the hospital and they told us thta it was done with physical contact. She had a hematoma, wch is the tearing of skin and tissue. The doctor showed us how her hand perfectly fits the patterns of the mark. My GF and I are so uset and can't believe that someon would do such thing. Then her mother is trying to blame it on us!! and then there was a fight about cigrettes and she was saying that the smell doesn't harm the baby. I mean hasn't she ever heard of second hand smoking? the doctor recommended that the baby is to be switched households, and we agree, but my GF's mother doesn't. What can I do?

 

[ellencee]

If the physician believes there was abuse, such as you described, then the physician should contact the authorities (including DSS).

I told you before if you were concerned about the welfare of your daughter, you should call the department of social services. You didn't; now this has happened. What are you waiting for? Call and report the incident and give the physician's name and the date and time of the ER visit.

That is your only option. At this point you have no more legal right to that baby than I do.

EC

 

[hexeliebe]

Just to expand on what ellen said. Not only SHOULD the physician report suspected abuse, but he/she is REQUIRED to report any suspected child abuse.

Therefore, either this physician is derelict in he/her duties or, and I suspect this, they don't feel the bruise rises to the level of abuse.

 

[fast_one]

Ok she did report it as abuse and yes she reported it. But my GF's mother then started to acuse my GF. That has flew by and now she points her finger at me. Now I do not wish to report it myself just yet,(beides the fact today is sunday and every place is closed, and tomorrow is Labor Day) because the baby might get temperarly removed and nobody might get to see her. but I am thinking about doing it since she'll be removed from that pesty place.

 

[stealth2]

Unfortunately, reporting it now isn't going to help you a damned bit - let alone waiting until Tuesday. It's been reported. That you took her to the hospital and had it checked out will benefit you. That you've been accused (by the grandmother) won't. But now the system is involved and will investigate. Expect that your g/f's age and her having a baby will all come out now. If you're smart, you will start talking to lawyers on Tuesday - I suspect you're going to need one.

 

[fast_one]

Oh you bet I am!!!!!!!! I want my daughter out of that drug house!!!!!!!!

 

[stealth2]

I was thinking more about your problem with impregnating a child, actually. I suspect you're in for the ride of your life.

 

[fast_one]

The doctor told me what I did was responsible. That if someone ike me id this responsible and the fact that I never left my GF during her pregnancy shows that I am a strong and cring person, and there is no way the court system should allow my daughter dat there than being with me. last night My GF's mother left her house to do god knows what, and left my GF and the baby , and my Gf's sisiter alone and some guy with a stick was getting ready to break in and luckly the police was patroling the area and I showed up at the time as well, I mean who knows what could have happened to my GF and my daughter if no one was there. I guess the guy is having problems with my Gf's mothers' boyfriend and I have tried to reason with her but her replies are that she doesn't want to talk about it. Like if it wasn't important to talk about the situation. so I am going to call an attornry and see what my options are.

 

[fast_one]

move?

Ok now the grandmothe wants my GF and my daughter to move to Nevada, can she that?

 

[nextwife]

WHAT is this mindset some people have that moving away is going to fix everything? I have never understood that concept, that all the problems will automatically go away if you switch states.

 

[fast_one]

I agree

I know what you mean how can people think that its going to make thinks A-okay I mean there is no way that I want them to move with people I don't know or trust.

 

[ellencee]

fast_one
You have probably caused this woman to want to get away from you and to take your GF and your daughter to Nevada with her. You have done nothing but attempt to control the life of this woman and everyone in the household, including visitors.

If you want to prevent your daughter from being moved out of state, get an attorney and file for some form of custody (such as joint) or to prevent her from moving and interfering with visitation.

You are either going to have to take a risk and tell the judge you impregnated a 13 year-old girl and you want to declare your paternity and gain your rights as a father or you are going to have to sit down and shut up and be glad the grandmother lets you see her daughter and granddaughter at all.

Those are your choices. That's all there is to it.

EC

 

[fast_one]

Ok how do I start? I do I get the ball rolling? Who do I talk to?

 

[stealth2]

a lawyer.