OT: High school senior sues parents for continued support

[justalayman]

Holy Hannah - I didn't even realize she'd pulled a Reverse Baldwin!

so, does anybody that was or is on the girls side have a slightly different opinion of the sweetheart honor student that couldn't do anything wrong?

 

[Ladyback1]

I admit that I am viewing this differently than you are (and who wudda thunk that that it was not a Hispanic family with that last name and a girl being named with a Hispanic boy's name?...color me confused).

However, if you have a child who is an honor student...then you cannot have a child who is unruly in school or off her meds, because if that were the case she would have lost her standing as an honor student. In addition to that, who calls their child a foul name in front of high school personnel? In addition, what parent stops paying high school tuition when they are the ones who signed the contract and are legally liable for it and that its their credit that is going to be sunk for not paying it?

A lawyer actually took on this 18 year olds case knowing that the 18 year old had no money and that the lawyer would be sol if the 18 year old does not prevail?

So, I got it completely wrong about what caused the riff between the 18 year old and her parents. That doesn't however change my opinion that the parents made a huge mistake. We have many more years of an adult relationship with our children than we have a childhood one. To allow this kind of riff to happen that close to age 18, with a child who is not out of control, is a huge error in parenting in my humble opinion.

Also, I do not believe that an attorney would have taken on the case unless they believed that they would prevail.

That is a blanket statement, that may or may not be based on reality. I've known many a smart kid who did well in school, but were absolutely terrors everywhere else (and vice verse). It is a manipulation tactic. "They are such a joy in class," says the math teacher, but at home they are not a nice or kind or caring kid and cause mayhem and havoc at home.

ahhhhh....hell! You have a very high opinion of the legal profession. Some attorneys would sue their own mother if they thought they were going to get publicity! (I also know some attorneys who are a bastion of ethics and morality, and will only take a case that they feel is winnable)

While I agree that life is too short for families to have this sort of squabble--perhaps the parents did all they could and the child believes that she is right, will continue to be right and her parents are the dumbest things on two legs! (seriously? Have you dealt with many teenagers in your life? Truly troubled teenagers?) And there is no compromise if BOTH parties aren't equally invested in making a compromise.

 

[Proserpina]

That's true.

Unruly and off her meds does not equate to "no chance of honor roll".

 

[justalayman]

That is a blanket statement, that may or may not be based on reality. I've known many a smart kid who did well in school, but were absolutely terrors everywhere else (and vice verse). It is a manipulation tactic. "They are such a joy in class," says the math teacher, but at home they are not a nice or kind or caring kid and cause mayhem and havoc at home.
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I believe that is also common in psychopaths and a few other issues considered to be mental defects. The can be the nicest sweetest person one moment or to one person and be the polar opposite to somebody else.

 

[RRevak]

I just wanted to put out that I was also an honor roll student in high school. Took advanced classes, participated in sports, had a quality GPA and was accepted into several "good" schools straight out of high school. To my teachers, sports instructors, and friends parents I was a true blue blessing and a kid they all wanted their kids to be like (well, minus the punk part ). At home? I admit now that I was pretty awful. I knew all the answers, argued constantly with my parents (to the point of being asked to leave several times) and chose to be the multi-colored hair punk chick they hated as opposed to the clean cut khaki wearing Martha Stewert they envisioned me to be. Most of the time I was hell on wheels! If you didn't know me at home one would have NEVER guessed me to be "that" kid.

 

[stealth2]

In Joisey? Inglesino = Italian.

 

[LdiJ]

That's true.

Unruly and off her meds does not equate to "no chance of honor roll".

The article I read said that her parents were claiming that she was unruly AT school...which is why I said what I said.

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

Ol' Rachel is down 2 for 3. Now we get to see what type of college fund it really was. BTW, princess has been suspended twice for drinking from school. As a parent, I just want to comment how wonderful it is she jumped the gun and saved them all that money. Hopefully the judge finalizes issue 3, college tuition with his current tough luck response.


http://abcnews.go.com/US/rachel-canning-loses-suit-make-parents-pay-high/story?id=22768908

 

[I'mTheFather]

The article I read said that her parents were claiming that she was unruly AT school...which is why I said what I said.

http://newyork.cbslocal.com/2014/03/04/nj-students-lawsuit-against-parents-headed-to-court/
"Judge Peter Bogaard noted that Rachel Canning’s behavior over the past year was a concern — one or two school suspensions, drinking, losing her captaincy on the cheerleading squad and being kicked out of the campus ministry."

It appears the parents were right.

 

[Proserpina]

http://newyork.cbslocal.com/2014/03/04/nj-students-lawsuit-against-parents-headed-to-court/
"Judge Peter Bogaard noted that Rachel Canning’s behavior over the past year was a concern — one or two school suspensions, drinking, losing her captaincy on the cheerleading squad and being kicked out of the campus ministry."

It appears the parents were right.

I'm completely hocked and shorrified by the truth.

No, really.

 

[I'mTheFather]

And those were just the times she got caught!

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

It reminds me of a football player that was harassing my daughter. One day she told him point blank if he did not leave her alone, she was going to the police and report he was dealing drugs at school and he would lose his football scholarship. Bounced his reality check. Turns out 2 months later the police busted him anyway and he lost his scholarship. He still lives at home and drives a Chevy Cavalier.

 

[Pinkie39]

http://newyork.cbslocal.com/2014/03/04/nj-students-lawsuit-against-parents-headed-to-court/
"Judge Peter Bogaard noted that Rachel Canning’s behavior over the past year was a concern — one or two school suspensions, drinking, losing her captaincy on the cheerleading squad and being kicked out of the campus ministry."

It appears the parents were right.

Wow!!

I'll never understand how some people who have everything going for them will just throw it all away like that.

This is a girl who is pretty, likely very popular, smart, athletic, from a well to do family who could and apparently did provide her with anything and everything she needs, who was going to a good school, living in a great neighborhood, and on her way to college without having to worry about how to pay for tuition. Sounds like this girl had was living a charmed life - why screw it up??

So many teens have far fewer advantages than her, including some with unimaginably horrible lives, but still manage to stay on the straight and narrow path. What am I missing here?

Unless she really does have some kind of untreated or poorly treated mental disorder, I can't understand why else she would choose to behave the way she has. And yes, I say that as someone who is a parent of a teen girl.

 

[Ladyback1]

Unless she really does have some kind of untreated or poorly treated mental disorder, I can't understand why else she would choose to behave the way she has. And yes, I say that as someone who is a parent of a teen girl.

She CHOSE to not take her psych meds. And unless the parents were shoving them down her throat and watching to make sure she did not throw up? She made the choices

 

[I'mTheFather]

She CHOSE to not take her psych meds. And unless the parents were shoving them down her throat and watching to make sure she did not throw up? She made the choices

I'm pretty sure that was Pinkie's point.