FLA I need legal advice but I need support from other fathers also.

[Proserpina]

Dad, there are some people who can navigate the legal system and successfully work their pro se magic with little, if any, guidance. And there some - and this isn't a bad thing or a negative or anybody's fault - who just need (truly NEED) to get an attorney on board.

Please, please, please do whatever it takes to hire an attorney.

I would hate - absolutely hate - to see you go around in circles like spinny.

(look up posts by a user called "signspinner").

He started out in the right (Mom upped and left without notice), but represented himself...and over a year later, he STILL hasn't seen his child. Because he messed up his case so badly that at this point I doubt even the best attorney can drag him out of the mire.

Get. An. Attorney. Get two more jobs. Sell stuff. Whatever it takes.

 

[djmastr111]

The current court order is confusing because it started out on one then visitation schedule changes in contempt so that made it two then another contempt added contact by text but hes with me friday 3pm until monday when mother gets off every week. There wasn't much else covered.

Neither parent shall leave the state with child.
neither parent shall speak badly about other parent or allow others to do so.
parents shall jointly discuss and decide on any major decisions concerning minor child.

There was hardly anything covered.

 

[Isis1]

The current court order is confusing because it started out on one then visitation schedule changes in contempt so that made it two then another contempt added contact by text but hes with me friday 3pm until monday when mother gets off every week. There wasn't much else covered.

Neither parent shall leave the state with child.
neither parent shall speak badly about other parent or allow others to do so.
parents shall jointly discuss and decide on any major decisions concerning minor child.

There was hardly anything covered.

okay. so....now answer this only.


your son has an IEP? correct? he is enrolled into HeadStart? or into a district school?

both schools has his IEP?

have you checked into your local reguinal center?

 

[djmastr111]

He has an IEP but mother refuses to follow yes.
IEP was started in head start they said they werent trained to help exceptional students like him and had him evaluated which they diagnosed as PDD and wanted him to have more of a one on one type of learning environment. He was supposed to start almost a month ago mother won't get him started. I've made up my mind I will start him Monday Mom can do whatever she feels is right but as long as they will take him he will go on my Mondays.

 

[djmastr111]

I don't have his IEP....Sorry I'm going fast again. I really need to go I have to get some sleep I have work in 3 hours. I never get to sleep.

 

[Isis1]

I don't have his IEP....Sorry I'm going fast again. I really need to go I have to get some sleep I have work in 3 hours. I never get to sleep.

go to sleep. i'll be here tomorrow. i promise.

 

[djmastr111]

Hi Isis I know I'm new to all of this but maybe it isn't legal advice I need.
I feel pretty comfortable with my case.
I have had my son taken away for a long time a year and some and his mother kept him from me and would not let me talk to him or see him or anything. She refused me all contact. This was while I was going through my dark days but if she felt I was dangerous then rehab would have been the safest place to bring my child to visit me.

That is the reason I do what I do when something seems dirty on my part. Mom over there has done some pretty bad things Stole all of my personal property and vehicle and everything I owned and just laughed about it not even caring. Never returning it. I think I can still file a lawsuit for that stuff but it's been 3 years what good will that do? How can I just let this stuff go and feel like things are even. I don't think I have it in me to ever forgive her.

 

[stealth2]

I don't think I have it in me to ever forgive her.

Love your child more than you hate your ex.

 

[Proserpina]

Hi Isis I know I'm new to all of this but maybe it isn't legal advice I need.
I feel pretty comfortable with my case.
I have had my son taken away for a long time a year and some and his mother kept him from me and would not let me talk to him or see him or anything. She refused me all contact. This was while I was going through my dark days but if she felt I was dangerous then rehab would have been the safest place to bring my child to visit me.

That is the reason I do what I do when something seems dirty on my part. Mom over there has done some pretty bad things Stole all of my personal property and vehicle and everything I owned and just laughed about it not even caring. Never returning it. I think I can still file a lawsuit for that stuff but it's been 3 years what good will that do? How can I just let this stuff go and feel like things are even. I don't think I have it in me to ever forgive her.

Deltabravo.net.

This forum isn't a support group.

 

[Ohiogal]

I didn't have to. I wanted the truth on recording because she can say she did send his medicine or something and she didn't she wouldn't even send it to his school. It's an asthma inhaler and I think he needs it the school just yesterday said "this is neglect" not the medicine but how she explained is that he mentally needs these classes and she is refusing to get him started that is neglect. I don't remember the exact words but I think the inhaler refusing is neglect also.

If the school thought it was neglect they would have reported it to CPS. Refusing to send a 4 year old to school is NOT neglect. So apparently the school is sending you a line because they would have needed to report her to CPS.

 

[gr8rn]

okay. so....now answer this only.


your son has an IEP? correct? he is enrolled into HeadStart? or into a district school?

both schools has his IEP?

have you checked into your local reguinal center?

Isis, this child has not even been diagnosed by a qualified clinician.

Well it's not just me I took him to his doctor. This will be kind of long heres my explaination and I'm sorry. I took him to the ER after he had a rash the doctor there said "autism...right?" I said I don't know he said yea that's it after he handed him the stethoscope for some reason. When he was born up to now he does not really respond to his name or even move he is scared of loud noises and vaccumes loud vehicles and things of that nature. Now on to the story the ER doctor wrote a script for cream for a rash that the school told me about after I was picking him up for my weekend and they had told his mother about it the day before it was terrible on his privates. I took the script from the ER to the pharmacy and asked if he had ever had any other medications from there in hope to find out his medicaid information that his mother refused me and I didn't want to file contempt for just that. The pharmacy tech showed me a list of 12 medications that included an asthma inhaler and antibiotics I had never knew about. I asked for the doctor and they told me so I looked up the doctor got the phone number and made an appointment and took him a week later. His doctor was going to refer me to have him checked for autism and gave me some advice on how to handle children with autism. He told me he had gave his mother the same referral a week earlier for the autism evaluation so I said I will leave it up to her (I was worried about getting into trouble from the courts). He also faxed 2 scripts to the pharmacy for inhalers and allergy meds

 

[Isis1]

Isis, this child has not even been diagnosed by a qualified clinician.

that's what is confusing. he said there IS an IEP.

but apparently he doesn't want legal help. i still think he's going in the wrong direction.

but hey. i was more concerned about the child anyway. so there that goes.

 

[djmastr111]

Gr8rn, Proserpina, OhioGal are you an attorney? Your not being very helpful at all. Read the whole post first please so that you don't need to assume and if you needed to know something you should ask me not tell me based off information that was being used to explain a whole different situation.

The title of the forum is not Free legal advice it is Free advice - Legal.

I'm guessing you have all been through some kind of custody battle. Why do you all team up on me to try and pick things out and make me look like a liar. Honestly, I don't know you I don't need to lie to you.


Ok well I've explained so much so far and it's being picked through in little bits.Yes my stories might be confusing especially if you jump in on the 5th page of postings and start reading and think you know the story. Yes he has been diagnosed by a psychiatrist but it was only a 4 hour evaluation and mother was withholding information because she doesn't want to think something is wrong with the baby. Yes he has an IEP which I don't know much about but if it's necessary I can get a copy I was going to try and respect moms wishes and let her handle these things and she also doesn't want me to know anything about these things and if the school needed anything they had never had a problem calling me in fact they called me Friday to tell me they would prefer to deal with me because I am easier to communicate with.

Yes he has to be in school mom was held in contempt for refusing to tell me where the school was in the first place and I can confidently say if she takes him out without us agreeing she could be held in contempt again but something new happened today.

Gr8rn you are wrong for jumping in in the middle of this without reading the whole thing you took one of the first posts which was me describing that mom refuses his medicaiton that was not about his diagnosis there were posts on other pages that covered that so thats how I know you havent read much. Thank you for your input but I would rather just speak with ISIS.

And Proserpina if I'm here for legal advice and you are not an attorney then you are breaking the law in many different ways practicing law without being an attorney is a criminal offense pretending to be an attorney is illegal. Giving legal advice if your not an attorney is Illegal. I can guarantee that nobody on this forum is an attorney. So thats why it is named free advice not free legal advice.

Ok and OhioGal Yes they told me this. The head start counselor also said that no she is not required to report anything. She told me that they had wanted her to go to moms home and do a check up and she refused because she is scared of the boyfriend. It struck me as odd also but if DCF was sent there I wouldn't know about it I don't go over there so maybe these things were reported but they are NOT public information. Just because DCF does an investigation does not mean that their findings are correct.

ISIS none of this was directed at you I just don't like these people judging without reading everything first if they had read they would see that everything they are talking about was answered somewhere.

Maybe I am wrong maybe I didn't explain right or why I was giving each piece of information.

Isis this is what happened today. Mom called me I was at work and couldnt answer so I texted these exact words. "I'm busy can't talk until 11 sorry" Mom replied "right liar" I replied "lol your calling me a liar" at 2pm I texted one more time saying "did you need to tell me something or was the only reason you called to tell me I was a liar?" Haven't received a reply so I will assume I was correct she just wanted to start an argument.

 

[djmastr111]

Just forget it. I can handle this myself the judge has sided with me every time I don't know why I'm here.

 

[tuffbrk]

Being rude to volunteers will not garner you assistance.