Step Parent Adoption Reversal

[mrobinson622]

The Bible is NOT legal. You are the one judging your ex. The man YOU chose to adopt your son. After the first man you chose, split. Did you ever establish paternity? Did you ever have him (the man you had sex with) ordered to pay child support? LEGALLY, you have no clue. LEGALLY, you could probably do a standby guardianship DEPENDING upon what state you die in. But we don't know where that will be.

I never established paternity because he didn't want to have a child in the first place. I chose to keep the baby. I made that choice. I didn't want his money. I was financially able to take care of my child. After he left, I moved to another state. In case, he ever decided he wanted to be a father, I left my address with his family. I never heard from him.

I am not judging my ex. This is what he ACTUALLY did! I don't have to judge...As I said in my original post, the last time he paid was December of last year and he hasn't spoke to my child in almost 2 years. According to several websites I have seen, that is considered abandonment. I just can't understand if he has abandoned him, why I can't reverse this...

Yes...LEGALLY I have no clue. Why else would I be posting on a legal advice forum?

 

[Silverplum]

I never established paternity because he didn't want to have a child in the first place. I chose to keep the baby. I made that choice. I didn't want his money. I was financially able to take care of my child. After he left, I moved to another state. In case, he ever decided he wanted to be a father, I left my address with his family. I never heard from him.

I am not judging my ex. This is what he ACTUALLY did! I don't have to judge...As I said in my original post, the last time he paid was December of last year and he hasn't spoke to my child in almost 2 years. According to several websites I have seen, that is considered abandonment. I just can't understand if he has abandoned him, why I can't reverse this...

Yes...LEGALLY I have no clue. Why else would I be posting on a legal advice forum?

You cannot reverse it.

 

[mrobinson622]

You can't reverse the adoption. HE needs to have a legal father. He doesn't get to become a bas-----tard simply because you changed your mind and have poor judgment.

He doesn't need to have a legal father if that father doesn't give a rip about him. Even if I could do this, my child isn't a *******. Do not call my son that!

 

[Zigner]

He doesn't need to have a legal father if that father doesn't give a rip about him. Even if I could do this, my child isn't a *******. Do not call my son that!

Um, technically he is (by definition.)

The state would disagree about your child not needing a legal father (in your case.)

 

[mrobinson622]

A) It is revolving daddies. You willingly had sex with a man who impregnated you and wasn't father material. You then had your (then) current sex partner adopt. Since you are now not involved with him, you want to reverse the daddy. YOu can't do that. YOU are the one who put your child in this mess.
B) What about a mother who makes choices based on who she is screwing at the moment? Your vagina doesn't rule the world. The law matters. You don't get to change who dad is simply because you don't like who you chose *(twice).
C) No. It is about your decisions. You need to comprehend that.

Bio dad wasn't father material because he left...what do you not understand about that? I can't force him to stay. I was in a relationship, not some one night stand. My then 'sex partner' was my husband. I do not want to reverse it because I am not involved with him. I want to reverse it because he isn't involved with my son. Can you not read???

Yes the law matters...but what about what actually is best for the child? I hope you don't help people for a living because you suck at it. I was more than willing to share custody with my ex husband. He is the one who CHOSE to abandon my child...I didn't make that choice for him.

Yes..my decisions. My decision to go through with a pregnancy that wasn't planned. My decision to let my husband, whom I adored and I thought adored myself and my son, adopt him...not knowing what a jerk he would become. What about my ex? Is none of this his fault? Or am I to blame for everything?

 

[Ohiogal]

He doesn't need to have a legal father if that father doesn't give a rip about him. Even if I could do this, my child isn't a *******. Do not call my son that!

Be mad. Be glad. Legally, YOUR SON IS. He was born out of wedlock. Guess what that legal definition is? And the state is not going to revert to that status because you changed sex partners (or because the prior father you chose sucked).

 

[Ohiogal]

Bio dad wasn't father material because he left...what do you not understand about that? I can't force him to stay. I was in a relationship, not some one night stand. My then 'sex partner' was my husband. I do not want to reverse it because I am not involved with him. I want to reverse it because he isn't involved with my son. Can you not read???

You had sex with the biological father. YOU got pregnant. You chose to carry the child to term. That makes the biological father, father material. Your ignorance doesn't change that.
You then had your sex partner (your then husband) adopt. You don't like that decision and have a new sex partner.

Yes the law matters...but what about what actually is best for the child? I hope you don't help people for a living because you suck at it. I was more than willing to share custody with my ex husband. He is the one who CHOSE to abandon my child...I didn't make that choice for him.

What would be best for the child is not having a mother who thinks with her vagina and doesn't make legal decisions based on the law.

Yes..my decisions. My decision to go through with a pregnancy that wasn't planned. My decision to let my husband, whom I adored and I thought adored myself and my son, adopt him...not knowing what a jerk he would become. What about my ex? Is none of this his fault? Or am I to blame for everything?

You are the one posting here. YOU are the one who had sex with someone you allowed to impregnate you and made you a mother and YOU state you did nothing to establish paternity. That guy may have been a great father but you did nothing. How you got his rights terminated is beyond me. Did you now know who you screwed when you got pregnant? Was he not served? Was he not forced to establish paternity?

You have horrible knowledge and horrible understanding of the law. YOU do not get to keep playing musical daddies because you suck at it.

 

[Silverplum]

He doesn't need to have a legal father if that father doesn't give a rip about him. Even if I could do this, my child isn't a *******. Do not call my son that!

Go. Consult dictionaries and attorneys. Make frowny faces ans shriek at him/her.

 

[mrobinson622]

Um, technically he is (by definition.)

The state would disagree about your child not needing a legal father (in your case.)

I understand that they will disagree, but I just don't understand why...

 

[Zigner]

I understand that they will disagree, but I just don't understand why...

Because they are not biased.

 

[mrobinson622]

Be mad. Be glad. Legally, YOUR SON IS. He was born out of wedlock. Guess what that legal definition is? And the state is not going to revert to that status because you changed sex partners (or because the prior father you chose sucked).

Why are you so heinous? Who has screwed you over so bad that you have to be so ugly to someone wanting legal advice?

 

[Ohiogal]

I understand that they will disagree, but I just don't understand why...

Because a child deserves two parents. You are a horrible judge of character and have made bad decisions. The court is not going to bas-tard-ize your child because you suck at choosing sex partners.

Your child has a father. The father you CHOSE for him. The fact that you chose improperly is not our problem. Each child has two parents. That will not change ever. Continue playing musical daddies. If you continue with adoptions, you might actually choose correctly. Maybe you should have done the LEGAL thing -- inform the biological father through a lawsuit that he had a child and sue for child support/custody/visitation. The fact you took shortcuts because you moved on is YOUR problem. The fact that you then divorced the father YOU CHOSE is YOUR problem. It should not be your son's problem.

It is that easy.

 

[Ohiogal]

Why are you so heinous? Who has screwed you over so bad that you have to be so ugly to someone wanting legal advice?

I deal with children who have to deal with their parents' bad decisions. I see the hell inflicted upon them by people that think with their sex organs and not their brains. Sad to say, you have screwed over your child. Deal with it. You thought with your vagina in who you chose to be your child's father. You didn't use the law or your brain. That is sad. Hopefully you have matured and your vagina is no longer in control.

 

[mrobinson622]

You had sex with the biological father. YOU got pregnant. You chose to carry the child to term. That makes the biological father, father material. Your ignorance doesn't change that.
You then had your sex partner (your then husband) adopt. You don't like that decision and have a new sex partner.

What would be best for the child is not having a mother who thinks with her vagina and doesn't make legal decisions based on the law.



You are the one posting here. YOU are the one who had sex with someone you allowed to impregnate you and made you a mother and YOU state you did nothing to establish paternity. That guy may have been a great father but you did nothing. How you got his rights terminated is beyond me. Did you now know who you screwed when you got pregnant? Was he not served? Was he not forced to establish paternity?

You have horrible knowledge and horrible understanding of the law. YOU do not get to keep playing musical daddies because you suck at it.

Have you never heard the saying 'any man can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a daddy'? He didn't want to be a father! I thought husband and wife were supposed to have sex...last I checked that was legal. It had nothing to do with being sex partners. It had to do with the man I loved and was supposed to be with until the day we died wanted to adopt my child. Yes I am remarried...again, married and sex partner are two different things.

I don't think with my vagina. I asked for advice on this forum to see what options I had and where to go from here. So apparently, I don't have extensive knowledge of the law, otherwise I would not be here.

You are a mean spirited individual and I hope one day that you can be happy. Trust in God. He can help you.

 

[RRevak]

Why are you so heinous? Who has screwed you over so bad that you have to be so ugly to someone wanting legal advice?

Because quite frankly, you are an awful individual for treating your son like he's a puppy. You chose one man to be a father (which is what you do when you carry a child to term and give birth to said child), that man walked away, then you chose man number 2 who then chose to walk away, and now you're working on man number 3?? Good grief woman STOP WITH THE DADDY SHOPPING! Oh, and if you were so blindsided by this "dad" leaving, are you seriously going to try again with this one? I wonder what the chances are that you'll be back here in a few years asking how to remove door number 3 and replace him with door number 4... I don't want to imagine how your son is going to feel when he's old enough to understand what you've done to him. *spit*