Step Parent Adoption Reversal

[mrobinson622]

Go. Consult dictionaries and attorneys. Make frowny faces ans shriek at him/her.

It doesn't matter what the official definition is...I know what it is. There is no sense in that person being so disrespectful.

 

[RRevak]

Have you never heard the saying 'any man can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a daddy'? He didn't want to be a father! I thought husband and wife were supposed to have sex...last I checked that was legal. It had nothing to do with being sex partners. It had to do with the man I loved and was supposed to be with until the day we died wanted to adopt my child. Yes I am remarried...again, married and sex partner are two different things.

I don't think with my vagina. I asked for advice on this forum to see what options I had and where to go from here. So apparently, I don't have extensive knowledge of the law, otherwise I would not be here.

You are a mean spirited individual and I hope one day that you can be happy. Trust in God. He can help you.

That's hardly an accurate statement with as many "daddies" as you've got going in this poor kids life

 

[mrobinson622]

Because a child deserves two parents. You are a horrible judge of character and have made bad decisions. The court is not going to bas-tard-ize your child because you suck at choosing sex partners.

Your child has a father. The father you CHOSE for him. The fact that you chose improperly is not our problem. Each child has two parents. That will not change ever. Continue playing musical daddies. If you continue with adoptions, you might actually choose correctly. Maybe you should have done the LEGAL thing -- inform the biological father through a lawsuit that he had a child and sue for child support/custody/visitation. The fact you took shortcuts because you moved on is YOUR problem. The fact that you then divorced the father YOU CHOSE is YOUR problem. It should not be your son's problem.

It is that easy.

The bio dad knew he had a kid. HE LEFT!!!! HE WANTED NOTHING TO DO WITH THE CHILD!!! Get that through your thick skull! There are lots of children with two parents. One of the parents (or more in some cases) is not in the picture at all. The reason I want to do this without having him adopted again is because if something ever happened, I don't want myself or my son to go through this pain. I didn't ask you for what you thought about me. I asked could someone give me some advice. How did I take short cuts? If I had done with bio dad, it would be the same as now. Not worth it. It wasn't my son's problem until my ex decided he no longer wanted to be a father.

 

[mrobinson622]

That's hardly an accurate statement with as many "daddies" as you've got going in this poor kids life

I don't understand why you people think that because his bio dad ran out on us, that it is my fault. The fact that my ex-husband who adopted him and supposedly loved him but won't speak to him or help him financially is my fault. He has a bio dad and he had a man he thought was his daddy. So how am I daddy hopping???

Why is it always the mom's fault in cases like these? Why is it ok for dad's to run out on their families and that is perfectly acceptable?

 

[Zigner]

I don't understand why you people think that because his bio dad ran out on us, that it is my fault. The fact that my ex-husband who adopted him and supposedly loved him but won't speak to him or help him financially is my fault. He has a bio dad and he had a man he thought was his daddy. So how am I daddy hopping???

Why is it always the mom's fault in cases like these? Why is it ok for dad's to run out on their families and that is perfectly acceptable?

No, you stated that you having a baby was an accident and not your fault. On that point, you are wrong.

I'm not stating that it's your fault that the men have acted the way they have. However, you seem to think it's 'ok' to jump from daddy to daddy, without regard to the damage that can do to your child.

 

[mrobinson622]

Because quite frankly, you are an awful individual for treating your son like he's a puppy. You chose one man to be a father (which is what you do when you carry a child to term and give birth to said child), that man walked away, then you chose man number 2 who then chose to walk away, and now you're working on man number 3?? Good grief woman STOP WITH THE DADDY SHOPPING! Oh, and if you were so blindsided by this "dad" leaving, are you seriously going to try again with this one? I wonder what the chances are that you'll be back here in a few years asking how to remove door number 3 and replace him with door number 4... I don't want to imagine how your son is going to feel when he's old enough to understand what you've done to him. *spit*

I am not asking my current husband to be 'daddy'. He is my son's stepdad. I don't want him to adopt my son because I do not want my son to ever have to go through this again. I didn't chose him to be a father. He was a father...until he left. Once a father runs out on their family, all they are is a sperm donor. All I want is my son to not have to ever ever worry about my ex husband, his 'daddy', walking in and destroying his life again.

You really get your jollies by finding people who want real advice and blasting them don't you...I hope you are proud of yourself.

 

[mrobinson622]

No, you stated that you having a baby was an accident and not your fault. On that point, you are wrong.

I'm not stating that it's your fault that the men have acted the way they have. However, you seem to think it's 'ok' to jump from daddy to daddy, without regard to the damage that can do to your child.

Getting pregnant was the accident. Having my baby was not. I don't want to 'jump' to a new daddy. I just want this man out of his life. He has me and his stepdad. Not dad...stepdad.

 

[Zigner]

Getting pregnant was the accident. Having my baby was not. I don't want to 'jump' to a new daddy. I just want this man out of his life. He has me and his stepdad. Not dad...stepdad.

You chose to have the child. (deja vu)

 

[TheGeekess]

I am not asking my current husband to be 'daddy'. He is my son's stepdad. I don't want him to adopt my son because I do not want my son to ever have to go through this again. I didn't chose him to be a father. He was a father...until he left. Once a father runs out on their family, all they are is a sperm donor. All I want is my son to not have to ever ever worry about my ex husband, his 'daddy', walking in and destroying his life again.

You really get your jollies by finding people who want real advice and blasting them don't you...I hope you are proud of yourself.

Like you've been told, legally, Dad is Dad. There's nothing you can do about that. You can't unmake that decision. Once Dad adopted Junior, that's it. You're not going to get Dad's rights removed because Dad is a jerk. Abandonment and those kinds of things only come into play when the State wants to remove parental rights from both parents, not because you've found out that Dad isn't "Dad material" (whatever the heck that is-it's certainly not a legal problem).

 

[TheGeekess]

Getting pregnant was the accident. Having my baby was not. I don't want to 'jump' to a new daddy. I just want this man out of his life. He has me and his stepdad. Not dad...stepdad.

Then file to have CS stopped. Stop contacting him. Leave Dad alone.

 

[mrobinson622]

I deal with children who have to deal with their parents' bad decisions. I see the hell inflicted upon them by people that think with their sex organs and not their brains. Sad to say, you have screwed over your child. Deal with it. You thought with your vagina in who you chose to be your child's father. You didn't use the law or your brain. That is sad. Hopefully you have matured and your vagina is no longer in control.

I have not screwed my child over. I chose with my heart who I wanted his 'daddy' to be. It was a legal adoption, therefore, I used the law. Just because you see people everyday that do things far worse than I have probably EVER done...combined...doesn't mean I am that type of person.

I truly feel sorry for the children you work with. You don't think with your heart. I'd be surprised to find you have one. I wanted honest help not a self indulged a$$h*le to tell me how horrible of a parent I am and how I have f***** up my child's life.

 

[mrobinson622]

Then file to have CS stopped. Stop contacting him. Leave Dad alone.

That's the thing. I haven't contacted him since the last time he called to speak to my son (when he wanted to tell him he was going to kill himself). The child support doesn't come anyway. I just want to legally have my son done with the man. He has no parental rights because he didn't take the parenting seminar, but because I thought it best my baby have Daddy in his life, I was going to let him see him. But he just didn't want to see him. I'll never understand why but that's the way it happened.

So since there is no communication already, I would just need to close the child support case and he can't mess with my baby anymore?

 

[mrobinson622]

Like you've been told, legally, Dad is Dad. There's nothing you can do about that. You can't unmake that decision. Once Dad adopted Junior, that's it. You're not going to get Dad's rights removed because Dad is a jerk. Abandonment and those kinds of things only come into play when the State wants to remove parental rights from both parents, not because you've found out that Dad isn't "Dad material" (whatever the heck that is-it's certainly not a legal problem).

Ok...see I didn't know that only comes into play when it's both parents...That helps a lot! Thanks

 

[Zigner]

That's the thing. I haven't contacted him since the last time he called to speak to my son (when he wanted to tell him he was going to kill himself). The child support doesn't come anyway. I just want to legally have my son done with the man. He has no parental rights because he didn't take the parenting seminar, but because I thought it best my baby have Daddy in his life, I was going to let him see him. But he just didn't want to see him. I'll never understand why but that's the way it happened.

So since there is no communication already, I would just need to close the child support case and he can't mess with my baby anymore?

The father of the child absolutely DOES have parental rights. They may be limited, but he has rights. Also, child support is not an admission ticket.

 

[Proserpina]

The only thing missing here is the allegation of abuse (Dad, Dad's friends, Dad's friend's Uncle Kreepeh, Dad's distant cousin twice removed who lives in Zimbabwe, the cousin's dog's sitter's gardener.... )

Come on people. All she needs is bright orange hair...