Want to Go WITH my Kids

[BelizeBreeze]

wow. this is just going all ove the place.

So does anyone else have any other advice about obataining IMMEDIATE visitation rights for both parents upon separation?

Yes.....
1 Kings 3:5 V19-21

 

[kimberlywrites]

Please Belize Breeze, tell me what that verse says. dying of curiousity.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

wow. this is just going all ove the place.

So does anyone else have any other advice about obataining IMMEDIATE visitation rights for both parents upon separation?

I suggest you and your husband go to an attorney/s and mediate a stipulated agreement re visitation to become effective upon your separation and file it with the court, then neither of you has to worry about the other kidnapping the children and all the stress can be avoided and the agreement can go into effect as soon as the judge signs it.

 

[stealth2]

Please Belize Breeze, tell me what that verse says. dying of curiousity.

Do you not know how to google?

(edit - and honestly - anyone with even a basic knowledge of the Bible should be able to figure out which Bible story it is.)

 

[kimberlywrites]

I sure do know how to google. I've been reading up on Big Buckin' Chickens.

 

[stealth2]

I sure do know how to google. I've been reading up on Big Buckin' Chickens.

Then finding what 1 Kings 3:5 V19-21 is should be a piece of cake.

 

[GottaGo]

BelizeBreeze, I am unsure what relevance that particular bible passage is supposed to have for me. And before you even start, yes I know that is the story of the Solomon and the two mothers, one of whose child died in the night. Are you saying I should give my son up rather than to have him split between my husband and myself?
Well, did you not get that he works constantly?

 

[kimberlywrites]

Then finding what 1 Kings 3:5 V19-21 is should be a piece of cake.

I'm looking. it seems to be not that easy. I guess I'm a heathen for not knowing the basics.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

BelizeBreeze, I am unsure what relevance that particular bible passage is supposed to have for me. And before you even start, yes I know that is the story of the Solomon and the two mothers, one of whose child died in the night. Are you saying I should give my son up rather than to have him split between my husband and myself?
Well, did you not get that he works constantly?

If he works constantly, why get a divorce and move away? How did he get you pregnant if he work's constantly? Do you already have a boyfriend?
What BB is saying is that if you really love your children you will give up your claim to have possession/control of them, in other words share them with their father rather than sneak away with them.

 

[snshea]

Think about who is to die over the fighting.

 

[tylersmom]

Okay, you haven't even left yet, am I right? Why do you want to leave? Abuse? Alchoholism? Adultery? Have you tried getting some counseling with your husband to work out your issues? You have children together. It's a commitment that you shouldn't walk away from without doing everything you can to work it out. If there are none of the issues I listed above, it may be worth saving. If you leave him, and he wants to work it out, that may be something the courts take into account when you try to get custody. Right from the get go, you wouldn't be acting in the best interest of the children. I'm not a lawyer, so I can't say what would happen. I'm just saying that this is a huge thing that will change the course of all your lives. Unless you are in a dangerous, abusive situation it may be worth it to get some help before just walking out.

 

[kimberlywrites]

GottaGo, I have seen both sides of this situation. I have a friend whose wife wanted to split, and despite his best efforts he has ended up an EOW dad. It was heart wrenching to see him go through all this. She also moved the child 99 miles away (within the 100-mile rule) so his every Thursday visit is hard to pull off. He gets antsy when the second week of not seeing his daughter rolls around. It sucks, because he is one of those devoted dads who changed dirty diapers and stayed home from work with his daughter one weekday a week so she wouldn't be in daycare the whole time. Now he is relegated to EOW dad status.
I would never do that, and I didn't/haven't. I am all for equal rights for fathers big time (assuming dad is a loving father, of course). And, fyi, my stbx and I share their expenses. I did not ask for child support.

 

[mommyto4]

Did you think that it could be your hormones? you were happy enough with your marriage to sleep with him and become pregnant!

 

[GottaGo]

tylersmom, been to counseling. Thing is, counseling doesn't do anything for you if you don't put into practice what you are learning. One person cannot carry nor mend a relationship. It takes the full effort of both. I don't want to leave, I would love to be able to work it all out, but how can I do that all by myself? Yes, he has a problem with alcohol, which he has not accepted yet. He is a very angry man and I find that my stomach knots (as does that of my 11yo) when I hear his key in the front door. I am scared of him and miserable and tired of hoping the man I fell in love with will return.

 

[mommyto4]

Okay now you are not making sense!!!

You say hes an excellent father and then make a comment about him being a very angry person and you cring when you hear the door and that he has had a drinking problem.????

Woman make up your mind!!

If he is that bad then you should have NEVER HAS SLEPT WITH HIM TO MAKE 2 CHILDREN!!